- It’s been such a privilege to have had the opportunity to learn so closely from Jeff. He taught me that it’s not only okay to make mistakes but that there is no other way to maximize your learning. I learned that the coaching conversation is our playground and that the best way to connect with our clients is to laugh in the face of pressure and just go out and play!
Group Coaching Mentee
- I began my mentoring group journey feeling nervous and apprehensive, but willing to grow and learn. Within the first half hour Jeff threw us into the water, but with a life jacket and a rubber duck inner tube! We learned that the pressure of learning to swim first was keeping us out of the water and guess what? We all came through our group with more confidence and ability.
Group Coaching Mentee
- Coaching with Jeff helped me to think differently about solutions, not just do things differently. This change in thinking has formed my whole life, not just with issues of productivity. Going in, I thought I’d solve some issues, make some decisions better, and become more productive. Coaching with Jeff is much more than just solutions for particular needs. He helps you to think differently about the root causes of why all previously-tried solutions haven’t worked for you. He helps you to visualize your own attention, how you pay attention, and not just what object you pay attention to. This is what sets him apart. It’s tremendously enriching. And of course, the other issues found solutions. I learned how paperless really means less for me, how I need to flesh out my thoughts on paper. I learned how to set up my home, office, and life so that I can allow creative ideas to be collected, sorted, decided on, and realized. Coaching with Jeff has given so much for me to move forward now.
- After going through this Mentor Coach program I feel more confident and at ease about my coaching skills! If you want to take your coaching to the next level, Jeff Copper, is an extraordinary mentor! I could not have asked for a better experience.
Group Coaching Mentee
- I am a 64-year-old retired professor, and my attention deficit symptoms have grown worse in recent years following the death of my spouse three years prior. I was referred to Jeff Copper in July 2016 by my psychiatrist and remained engaged with him until November. The referral was provided in response to my current boss’s threat to fire me if my error rate, forgetfulness, and poor listening did not improve.I should note that my ADD symptoms and anxieties are made much worse by a fear of criticism by my boss or others (social anxiety), and when this occurs, my thinking becomes fuzzy from the adrenaline response. The errors and the forgetfulness are very embarrassing and frustrating. I had reached a point where I felt there was no one that I could talk to who could understood or help, making me feel very much helpless and alone.I found Jeff to be a very smart and resourceful guy, and his confidence initially helped me to believe that I could reduce errors and forgetfulness or at least cope with the negative feelings I held towards myself when I made an error. Jeff is extremely insightful and almost always on target. Having the weekly insight, structure, and support helped me to stay focused on my problem and remain on task in doing things, culminating in surviving my job and feeling better about myself. Jeff had many, many great suggestions that helped to improve my problems (e.g., tips on increasing listening, methods of checking my own work, asking for help, closer attention to making entries on calendars, close monitoring of my cell phone notifications to remind me of appointments, getting everything onto my task list, taking steps to avoid and recover from panic symptoms). In addition, Jeff’s structure and encouragement helped me to get serious about doing these things.In addition to Jeff’s amazing insights and tips that can aid with managing my symptoms, I became comfortable working with him on such personal issues, despite my initial embarrassment. In the second session, I told him that I was afraid and embarrassed of letting another know of my errors, lack of attention, and forgetfulness. This was a turning point in our relationship as he was able to comfort me and help me to realize that I was safe and could trust him not to be critical. From there, the relationship remained great and I looked forward to our weekly sessions.
Jeff also helped me to see that I was a highly intelligent and skilled individual, producing some amazing work, and that my boss was not the best in the way he handled things. This helped me to feel better about myself. Some of my problems were due to my boss’s excessive criticism and failure to provide the support I needed. I learned from this to ask if I could have a “dry run” when I presented something complex to a point that my boss is now much more tolerant of errors uncovered during an initial presentation.
During this time, errors, lack of attention, and forgetfulness improved quite dramatically, perhaps as much as half of the previous rate. This came from a combination of Jeff’s support, tips he had suggested, more systematic methods of double-checking my own work, and steps to reduce the effects of anxiety. Although I’m still not good at stopping the effects of adrenaline, I am much more aware of my states of mind and prepared to cope until right mind is restored.In summary, my work with Jeff was very helpful and I would recommend him to anyone who has similar problems and is motivated to make changes.
Ex-Professor, Author, CEO & CFO
Tampa Bay, FL
- I am very grateful to have had Jeff Copper as my ADHD mentor coach, an undisputed “thought leader” in the ADHD community. Aside from being extremely knowledgeable, highly competent, and a genuinely gifted coach, Jeff has a special talent for facilitating an individual’s natural ability to see objects through differing perspectives in a fluid non-judgmental state of mind (i.e., different “lenses”). His talent as an “attention coach” is only matched by his sincere enthusiasm for helping others. Hiring him as my mentor is one of the best decisions I’ve made in my new professional career. Thank you, Jeff!!!
- My academic experience was a roller coaster. I would struggle with school, be down and out, pressure would be on, and I would be able to perform just well enough to get back into the game. The living by deadlines and pressure was exhausting and I knew that I was capable of more. Not being a fan of therapy, counseling, or psychologists, the notion of an ADHD coach caught my eye, so I contacted Jeff Copper. In working with him, I learned he takes a very pragmatic approach at focusing on my natural process to move things forward. At first, I had difficulty embracing it, because I had many beliefs in place, that I shouldn’t be a certain way or I shouldn’t do it a certain way. Jeff helped me not only to understand how I did or when I did it, but he pointed out the overwhelming evidence that it worked. As I began to embrace what worked and to apply it, success came, and I became more confident. At some point in time, it just became easier to take the natural path. Moving forward, I’m excited about the future. I’m no longer just surviving to get by, but actually have had evidence that I can drive without the need of an impending deadline. If you relate to anything I’ve said, I encourage you to reach out to Jeff. I highly recommend him and endorse him.
- Jeff’s classes firmly implanted in my brain what it means and takes to be TRULY curious as a coach and the value it adds to a coaching partnership. He turned the learning approach on its head to help us “get it”. So enjoyed the-outside-of-the-box approach to digging deep to discover the pearls in the shell!
- That was a great class!!!!! It felt like one huge “booya” moment. Thank you.
Group Coaching Mentee
- I joined Jeff’s Mentor Group with no clue what to expect. I can safely say, the ideas put forth in this group define my entire coaching perspective. I have often been acknowledged as curious and a “deeper level” questioner, and I know these qualities are inherent in me, but this group program helped me tap into those abilities at a very pivotal moment in my education. I heavily credit Jeff Copper’s inaugural Mentor Group Program as having helped me become the coach I am today. Seriously, my peers are sick of me talking about it. Super excited about Advanced starting next month.
Lindsey Bozeman Biggs
Group Coaching Mentee
- I loved the opportunity to have the discussions about different coaching techniques – such as doing horizontal vs. vertical. Jeff has a wonderful way of letting you feel comfortable to experiment without concern for judgment. It makes for a very safe, productive learning environment. Thanks for a fun class.
Group Coaching Mentee
- I am a lawyer in Florida with ADHD who only started to learn about it and its impacts on my behavior within the last several years. Only after I received a clinical diagnosis was I willing to accept that I did have ADHD, after which I also started reading about it and trying to understand how it impacted my behavior. I found very Melissa Orlov’s work on ADHD and marriage, which was the main source of my conflict, were very helpful, but what I read was presented as a guide, not a solution. As part of that guidance, she recommended taking a “three-legged stool” approach, one of which legs was coaching. Jeff Copper was included on her list of recommended coaches, which is how I ended up connecting with Jeff.At least for me, reading and understanding about how ADHD impacts my behavior and my relationships with others, particularly my spouse, could only go so far. What Jeff brought to the table is something that only a good coach could do, but something about which I started with skepticism, because I did not know how it could add value. Jeff began to help me understand natural processes that I used to manage my emotions, which were working for me but I was not conscious of. As we worked together, I began to understand exactly what was happening and to understand my process. It helped me understand more clearly my natural patterns of attention. The coaching was very helpful for me because, like other types of coaching, he gave me drills and repetitions, now directed towards managing my emotions and my impulses rather than how to swing a bat or block and tackle—but in a way, the same underlying approach, teaching skills with practice. Things began to click, and I got my Aha!Today, things are much clearer to me in embracing who I am. As a result, I’ve begun my journey more consciously, regulating my emotions and my attention, which I work on daily. When I came to Jeff, it was really about relationships, but I came to realize I’m understanding myself and more accepting of myself, which, for me, will have a profound impact on my relations and my ability to manage.
State of Florida
- I was diagnosed with ADHD late in my life; I was 58. I would be rich if I had a dollar for every time someone said, “You have so much energy; don’t you ever get tired?” I now know that it is ADHD’s fault, but I wouldn’t change anything about who I am! I personally find there are many advantages to having ADHD and I would like to name of few of my personal favorites: a big heart, many wonderful friends, a great personality so I have been told (not bragging), I know what everyone is doing in my classroom (and I mean everyone), I work hard at being organized… and that’s okay… and I have never been bored in my life!Here are a few of the not-so-good ones: I am usually not early… okay, just on time or a few minutes late; my spontaneity can be good or not so good; relationships are challenging if that other someone does not accept us for who we are; I can be pretty hard on myself, and I get overwhelmed at times.Ones that drive me crazy are: looking for my cell phone or wallet or sometimes forgetting what I was talking about when I was distracted. Sound familiar?Jeff has given me strategies to help me not be overwhelmed by understanding what my brain is doing to protect me… fight or flight. I now turn those situations into positive outcomes. We can be pretty hard on ourselves, and the one thing that touched my heart was the week I was told to celebrate being me. Sounds simple, doesn’t it; but it isn’t. We can be very hard on ourselves.Thanks to Jeff for changing the ways I think about ADHD and making me stronger!
P.S. Jeff, I know you probably know that I enjoyed writing this and had some tears falling at the same time. I hope someone can identify with it.
Middle School Music Teacher
Tampa Bay, Florida
- I had been successful in life and ventured off on my own. While I was surviving, I knew I was capable of more. To fast-track my process, I reached out to Jeff Copper for a little coaching around my ADHD and my business. While I had thought it would take longer, I had three Ahas, which completely changed the way I look at things and enabled me to look forward. It was so powerful, Jeff didn’t even have to coach me on what to do; I just naturally did it. Today, I can see the path moving forward and how I can build a business around who I am and, to a certain extent, play to the strength of my ADHD. I really got value in working with Jeff Copper and I recommend him highly.
Focus contact and detail in custom travel
- I reached a frustrating point in my life after being laid off from my job and trying to figure out what to do next. I have had many different career paths in corporate America and was good at all of them. I had always been successful at whatever job I had and at all the new exciting hobbies I picked up over the years, but I had never really mastered anything. I actually started being hard on myself for being good at too many different things! I wanted to pursue the only thing in my life that had been consistent, which was fitness and sports. I stumbled on Jeff’s website by searching the web for a life coach. It didn’t even dawn on me to find a life coach who specialized in ADD/ADHD. But I’m so happy I found one who did!From the first free phone consultation, I knew Jeff understood my frustrations and wanted to help. He was passionate about his job and incredibly knowledgeable in his field. And it showed. This makes a huge difference when hiring a coach! You want someone that you feel wants you to succeed and is connected to the goal. I wanted out of corporate and wanted to start my own business. However, I was paralyzed with fear, of the unknown, of failure, success, what steps to take and the big one – Is this going to be another one of my ADHD ideas that won’t last?With ADD/ADHD combo, you start to learn your pattern of constantly finding the next shiny thing. What I wanted was to find my shiny thing that would last. And this is where Jeff shines. He shows you how to find what works for you and what comes natural and easy by simply asking the right questions and showing you a different way to look at things. For example, I wanted to start my own personal training company. First step? Get certified as a personal trainer. Sounds easy enough except I have an extremely hard time sitting down. I like to read and learn, but I don’t like to study, per se. I was banging my head against a wall, so frustrated with myself because, as much as I wanted to learn the content, I couldn’t keep up with the class and assignments.The problem wasn’t that I couldn’t do it; the solution was to stop doing it the way I thought I should do it just because that’s what the book says. What does that mean? Jeff suggested trying something. He said, “Why don’t you watch the videos first, physically do the training as you watch, read through the quiz so you get an idea of what the chapter is about and then skim through the chapter, highlighting what you just watched in the video and what you read in the quiz.” Seriously!? Guess what, it worked. For me. Learning what works for me was one of my biggest takeaways from Jeff’s coaching. Learning how my brain works and understanding to stop “shoulding” all over myself, as Jeff calls it, was a huge eye opener for me.If you’ve ever struggled with trying to do things the way you think you should, or be a way that you think you should, contact Jeff to help you see the ways that come easy to you so you’re not wasting time being frustrated trying to do it the hard way! Jeff helped me focus on the tasks I needed to do by talking through my workload with me on our weekly calls so I could visualize and write down what I needed to do. For me, I needed to act out assignments first to comprehend the verbiage and write everything in a step-by-step process on paper. I also learned my brain worked best in categories when trying to remember what I learned. Sounds simple and obvious, yes, but I didn’t know this was how I operate at my best. Sometimes it’s the simple things that are right in front of our faces that we can’t see. Jeff helped me see those simple things that now help make my life easier. In my experience, being self-aware and learning about the ADD/ADHD brain can really help alleviate the anxiety and chaos that goes on in our head. Jeff helped me see through the chaos and gave me real, simple coaching to keep taking steps forward. It’s our job to take the steps forward to better ourselves and find our purpose and passion. Jeff just makes it a whole lot easier by being there along the way, helping you get the ball rolling! And I’ll take the easier way any day!
Business Owner and Certified Personal Trainer
- Before coaching, I struggled with anxiety, depression, and difficulty getting things done. I’d been to the mental health professionals and therapists. It was helpful but still I sensed I could do more. I finally decided to turn to coaching. Through the process, I began to understand how to regulate my emotions using structures that had worked for me in the past, that I had not realized. As I begin to mindfully manage/regulate my emotions, it was easier for me to find the characteristics of the environment that enabled me to focus. In the end, I’m managing my ADHD better than ever before, the emotional regulation that used to get in its way, and I’m feeling more confident and excited about the future. If what I’ve described sounds like you, I encourage you to learn more about ADHD coaching and specifically consider Jeff Copper.P.S. I’ve been able to fly through the first semester of college. I’m actually on the honor roll for next semester. That’s something I never really thought could happen.
- Before coaching, I had a fair amount of anxiety that follows me through the week, trying to keep up with work that just didn’t seem to get done. In working with Jeff, I began to realize that completing things that require executive function at point of performance is key to me. As a matter of fact, it’s everything. Understanding that allowed me to make some very small adjustments that made a big difference. This was my aha moment. If you’re struggling and need an outside perspective to find solutions that work for you, I would highly recommend Jeff Copper.
- I came to coaching on my own but with the strong urging of my wife. Once I got into it, I was surprised what I learned about myself, what works, what I always pay attention to. In total, I must have had a dozen ahas impacting my job, relationships with my kids and my wife. Jeff was right; once I understood who I am and how I work, the solutions that naturally work for me were revealed. Thanks, Jeff, for helping me understand how I work and for giving me the ability to articulate my experience to others in a way they understand and to remove the mystery of what works for me and why.
Pension Sales Representative
- Just three months ago it was all negative self-talk and panic, this after spending countless hours and dollars in and on therapy. Not the outcome I was looking for. For whatever reason (maybe an act of desperation), I was drawn to the concept of an attention coach and hired Jeff. OMG! For the first time in my life, someone “got” me! Understood me! Helped me understand me, understand what works for me. Together we wrote my user manual. Jeff, you are right! “Hard” is overrated. Things are so much easier if I just apply what works for me. Thanks to Jeff the negative self-talk and panic are gone. I have energy and am managing my attention in ways I could not have imagined just three short months ago!
Professional Photographer & Professor
- I was attending a business conference in Hot Springs, Arkansas. One evening I was sitting in my hotel room on a mission to figure out ADD. That’s when I contacted my coach and said things have to change.My name is Slade. I am a husband, father, business owner, entrepreneur, believer in Jesus, avid outdoorsman, and love being with and helping people. I had learned two years earlier that I had ADD and had an enormous relief after 40 years of being wide open in life and constantly feeling intense and frustrated. Throughout my life I have always been a competitor and wanted to win. I was constantly starting projects, finding new challenges, giving it all I had, and then just losing interest, feeling restless, stopping the new endeavor, starting the cycle all over again with something different. The doctor prescribed some medicine and I was shocked after one week with the results.As I said earlier, I have always operated with high octane and this medicine took me over the top with starting something and finishing it. I started to be able to focus like never before on projects. But what started off as a good thing then turned into a bad thing. I was always at the office, engaged in community projects, helping people, and at the same time, I was drifting away and causing strife with my wife and children. Even close friends saw that the change in me was getting very dangerous and said I’d better slow it down or disaster was around the corner.I have always believed in personal coaches and actually had one at this exact season when life was getting dangerous. And that’s when I called him from Hot Springs and told him I needed an expert coach in ADD. He was great and helped me on a journey to find the best ADD coach. I remember checking out countless websites and interviewing several ADD coaching websites.Then I came upon Jeff’s site, www.digcoaching.com. I was extremely intrigued by what I was reading and was starting to feel like he “got” me and understood me. Then we talked and the only thing I remember from our first phone call was when he said, “Pills don’t equal skills.” As a business owner and competitor, I knew Jeff was onto something.Now after 14 months, I can honestly say that Jeff has been one of the top three people in my entire life. I have been blessed with countless friends, mentors, and great leaders, but I wouldn’t trade what I have learned with Jeff Copper for anything. My marriage, my relationship with my children, and my company would not be where it is today without him. I have learned who I am, how I think, what causes me friction, what to focus on, how to go from an idea to an executed plan, how to pause and listen, and the list goes on and on. He is a coach to me, but he is also a foxhole companion and partner to help me be the best I can be. The time that is non-negotiable with me has been our weekly meeting. It’s one of the best investments I have ever made in my life.
Fairhope, Alabama (Roll Tide!)
- I came to coaching because something always seemed to be wrong. I was late to almost every meeting, I couldn’t get started on tasks unless they were due the next day, I felt like I was always trying new organization systems that were unsuccessful, and I was beating myself up about it constantly. When I got started working with Jeff, I learned that ADD is a self-regulation issue, and that I had plenty of attention. However, the physical environments where I worked constantly impacted the regulation of my attention. I discovered that I already had organizational skills, and I was able to use the weekly coaching sessions and homework to restructure my environment and allow me to better control the focus of my attention. If I hadn’t come to coaching, I may not have finished my doctoral dissertation.
Graduate Research Fellow
- ADHD Coaches Organization Post-Presentation LetterKatherine Jahnke, Conference Co-Chair
Robin Nordmeyer, Conference Co-Chair
ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO)
- The experience of being a parent of a child with ADHD, can feel like a roller coaster of emotion. Even when things are going well, there’s a sense of foreboding, anticipating the next disappointment or failure. When I hired Jeff to coach my college-aged son, I was an emotional wreck. Even though I’d spent over 12 years educating myself about ADHD and executive function, I was at a loss as to how to truly help. Despite his intelligence and desire to succeed, he struggled with attention, meeting deadlines, memory, organization, motivation, and follow-through since early childhood. I worried that, despite being capable, he wasn’t actually able to meet the demands of college.Jeff’s method of including family members in the early coaching sessions is important. Through the Getting Started series, I realized I had been lost in the emotion of ADHD parenting, in the anxiety, fear, and frustration. Through our sessions, Jeff challenged me to look at my own patterns, learn more about the biology of the brain, and to see how self-regulation is at the root of many of the challenges of executive function and ADHD. Jeff’s in-depth knowledge and his direct, structured approach were refreshing and effective.After a few weeks of working with Jeff, my son admits that things are starting to “click;” he’s self-reflective, more confident, and has made his own choice to continue the coaching sessions. He’s learning why his brain works the way it does and how to manage his emotions and stress. He’s learning how to identify what makes him successful and how to replicate that in other situations. This means that when future challenges arise he’ll be more prepared and in control. For me, it means I am able to let go and feel less anxiety, since my son is learning the tools for his own success from working with Jeff.
- I am very impressed with Jeff’s coaching. He is an expert at helping you figure out how your brain works and invent processes that work for you. Since working with him, I have made many changes resulting in greater efficiency in life and in my business. He is highly structured, focused, and always starts and ends on time.
Birgit Zacher Hanson
Master Certified Coach
- “If Only You Understood Attention” Review:
The obstacle to your intentions is unmanaged attention. “If Only You Understood Attention!” uses visual prompts and simple language to communicate what I’ve coached and taught others for almost 20 years… to PAUSE… and consciously notice what you are attending to so you can successfully manage it in harmony with the purpose of your passions. In just 32 minutes, this workshop provides you with memorable lessons and tools, when consistently practiced, can change your life.
David Giwerc, Master Certified ADHD Coach, MCAC, MC
Founder/President of the ADD Coach Academy, ADDCA
- Lynn University Post-Presentation Letter
Ashleigh K. Fowles
Assistant Director of Major Gifts
- “If Only You Understood Attention” Review:
Jeff Copper pays attention to attention like no one else, and fortunately for the rest of us, he shares his insights in a totally understandable way.
Ari Tuckman, Psy.D., MBA
- “If Only You Understood Attention” Review:
Jeff brings both street wisdom and academic insight to his unique process of observing and embracing attention challenges—then provides solutions that work on multiple levels in the real world, from relationships to project management.
Dr. Charles Parker
New ADHD Medication Rules
- “If Only You Understood Attention” Review:
I discovered that making smarter decisions often involves certain skills that can be developed by anyone. Jeff’s videos helped to guide my self-awareness and focus, which ultimately unleashed my full potential. It has been an upward spiral ever since, everyone is noticing, and my confidence is healthier than it’s ever been.
Top 5 Global Consulting Firm
- Before coaching, I was stuck. I wasn’t sure what I was supposed to do and couldn’t figure out which direction I should go. Jeff took the pressure off, helped me see things in a different context, and enabled me to move forward. He also helped me understand what I always pay attention to, which gave me confidence as I realized patterns to my success. Since coaching, I’ve been more scheduled, self-confident, relaxed, and happier than I thought I would be. Most importantly, I feel like I’m on track with a plan, executing what I need to do for the future. If you identify with my situation, I would recommend contacting Jeff.
- Don’t give up! I always told myself to keep on trying, to keep on struggling, to fight through each day. I always thought that one day if I could just “finish this task” or “get through that book,” everything would start making sense. Nothing seemed to be as easy for me as it was for everyone else. Nothing seemed to work out for me. I thought that if I could be hard enough on myself and push myself I would finally learn and succeed in life. I started to recognize that I was beating myself up and adapting some coping mechanisms that were not good. I felt afraid for my future. I can’t tell you how I stumbled upon Jeff Copper on the internet but I am so grateful that I did. Truly I thought I may be taking another shot in the dark and flushing my money down the toilet like I have done with others before but I had to give something a try. I have tried many other types of help and it wasn’t working. Wow, I can’t explain what I have found!With Jeff’s help, I realized that what I experience everyday is not what everyone else experiences. The noises from everyday items, like dishes clattering in a restaurant, a drier running, the temperature and the feel of water from something as simple as the shower, to me they are far more intense than they are to most people. I hadn’t even realized that this hyper sensitivity was making my day almost unbearable! In working with Jeff I’ve begun to learn how “I” work and have started to do things the way that works for me. I’ve started socializing again and am managing the things that I need and want to do every week. I feel like I am getting answers and understanding myself finally! I have struggled so hard so long! What is surprising me is how easy things are coming by doing it my way. I am grateful that I didn’t give up and found Jeff Copper. If anyone out there is struggling I would hope that they don’t give up either. I hope that they realize that if life seems impossible no matter how hard they try it may be time to try something else. Maybe there is a real reason that what they are doing isn’t working, maybe it is because you’re focused on the wrong solutions. My goal in writing this testimonial is to motivate others to have the courage to reach out for some help… even if it’s a shot in the dark. I did.
Firefighter, Paramedic, Nuclear Med Tech, Waitress, HVAC Controls for Commercial Construction, Leasing Agent, Ice Rink Supervisor, Model, Uncertified Dental Tech… Please don’t make me list more.
Tampa Bay FL
- Before coaching, I struggled with fatigue, completing work on time, and most important, anger management. In working with Jeff, he took the pressure off. He accepted who I was and got me. He educated me on ADD and, together, we learned how I worked, how I naturally do things, and how to manage my ADD. As we worked together, I understood what I always pay attention to and used my natural patterns of attention as a means to get past what I struggle to focus on. Through awareness, I began to manage my anger or, should I say, emotions like never before. Today I’m happy to report I’ve gain control of my attention and emotions and am able to manage them daily for a more balanced and spiritual life. Thank you, Jeff, for taking the time to “get me,” helping me understand how I work and especially helping me to manage my ADD and my life. I’d recommend Jeff to anyone who can identify with the challenges I had faced.
- To The Universe: I want to thank you for the path my life has taken in the past year. One year ago I had started a journey on my own. I was going to focus on the positive, weed out the unhealthy, rediscover who I wanted to be, and move full steam ahead in my personal life and professional career. I was puddle jumping for the first few months. Then in March of 2012 a series of events brought Jeff Copper into my life. In reality, I think I pushed myself into his! By April I had begun my training as an ADHD coach at the ADD Coach Academy (ADDCA). Soon after this I realized that I needed a mentor coach. Jeff, I quickly realized, would be my ideal mentor coach.I do need to set the background so you know what this really means. I am a licensed clinical psychologist. Being the self-actualized person I am (ha-ha), I have been to more than a few therapists throughout my life. Plus, don’t forget, I went to graduate school, completed an internship, and had a lot of post-doctoral training. I have had some great therapists and mentors in the past. However, I have never had either a therapist or a mentor who helped me to grow and improve both personally and professionally as much as Jeff has.Throughout my course work at ADDCA Jeff worked as my mentor. Every week asking permission to “push” me. I coached him, he coached me, we talked about coaching. Every session was a gold mine. Jeff was like my ideal trainer at the gym — the guy who, when I say “ouch,” tells me to do 5 more reps. Because I’m learning. Jeff kept the perfect balance of being tough, honest, and direct by being kind, complimentary, and encouraging.This month I completed my advanced course work and hope to get certified. I have learned a lot about coaching strategies and models through my coursework, but I have learned about the heart of being a coach from Jeff Copper. I could not have asked for a better mentor, coach, and friend.Thank you.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist and ADHD Coach
- Testimonial Letter from ADHD Parent Support Network of Tampa Bay
Norrine L. Russel, Ph.D.
Founder and Facilitator
ADHD Parent Support Group of Tampa Bay
- It is incredibly frustrating to know you are capable, yet time and again, you miss opportunities or fail to execute. For me, when it all came to a head, I finally looked towards ADHD coaching. If I knew then what I know now, I would have invested the time in coaching long ago. What I’ve learned is that I’m more than capable. I just have to do tasks my way. Through coaching, I’ve come to understand how I work in a unique and positive way. Sometimes I catch myself and say I’ve changed. But Jeff is right…I haven’t changed; my behavior has changed. Now I attend to how I do things, not just how I think they are supposed to be. Since working with Jeff, I’m seeing things differently and accomplishing tasks I never knew I could do. If you can identify with any of this, I recommend you take the time and give Jeff a call.
ADHD Business Executive
- I was stuck. I’d been diagnosed with ADHD but just knew I was capable of more. I knew that I could perform at a higher level and turned to coaching. Through the coaching process, I realized the negative impact my emotions had on my everyday life and how they would paralyze me and inhibit my progress. Before coaching, I thought I understood what it meant to pause. Now I “get” what it means to pause. Getting “it” has enabled me to notice my emotions when they manifest and pause. By pausing, I’m able to down-regulate my emotions and manage around them. Learning to pause has transformed my life. Thanks to Jeff and his patience, I’m grateful for learning how to pause, how to pause and notice my emotions, notice my ADHD, and to manage them in a positive way that works for me.
Educator, Lake Park FL
- What Jeff Copper did for me is hard to explain, but the results are easy to state, except that the number of changes resulting from his coaching goes beyond what I can likely recall all at one time. Looking back, I can now see that individual results interacted with one another to form an integrated approach to life that was very different from what I’d practiced before. Before, I thought I understood myself pretty well, though I didn’t much like the person I thought I was. My world, as I saw it, was governed by my failings and doubts about what I could accomplish. It mattered not at all that I had a national reputation for quality work in my field, was known as a more than competent performer in several fields, and year after year appeared in several editions of Marquis Who’s Who. I “knew” that I was deeply flawed.Jeff emphasizes the importance of observing what one observes. More elusive, but vital to his work, is that what some of us observe may be so affected by our preconceptions as to blind us to the truth. In order to think sanely, I had to open my eyes and ears and start observing what really was happening in my world. Jeff somehow made it easy for me to begin doing that. I suspect that, because I am a researcher with a deep interest in observing and analyzing human behavior, it may have been easier for me than perhaps for some others, when he pointed out things I had not observed previously, to recognize and acknowledge them.
My work in research also involves theory development. In order to develop theory, one must be able to “connect the dots.” In my case, that meant seeing connections among my new observations. As these new observations and their interconnections began to replace the old, untested ones, I realized that I had been operating on the basis of beliefs that had closed off input, or evidence, from the “real world” around me. In short, I had previously operated on the basis of a closed system. With Jeff’s help, I came to see the sunlight that I’d failed to admit into my world previously.My new observations, based on factual observations, rather than preconceptions, created a whole new way of approaching life.Perhaps the most important resultant change was that I developed confidence in myself. And why not? My confidence was based upon observations grounded in facts. I learned that I truly was competent and in a whole variety of ways, some of which surprised me. I gradually came to know myself and discovered that I was not the deeply flawed person I had previously thought. Instead, I realized that I had accomplished and could continue to accomplish outstanding work and not only in the field in which I was considered an expert. I gradually realized that I could do a whole range of things and do them well.
Then the big question became what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. This question has not yet been answered, but I feel no rush.Throughout my training with Jeff, I never thought I was becoming perfect. I remained very much aware of my flaws. What interested me most is that the flaws I observed were often completely different from those I’d previously. How did I now identify flaws? Simple. My new emphasis on observation provided self-correcting feedback.All this amounts to saying that, before, my thinking had constituted a closed system. With Jeff’s help, I moved to an open-system way of thinking about and acting in the world.
Some people are none too pleased with the results!For example, I’ve learned to express anger when I consider it justified and to do so in decisive language that leaves no room for doubt. It took a bit longer to learn to express that anger with consideration and kindness for those at whom I was angry. Perhaps, after all, I was wrong in some way because I had not known all the facts. And I really didn’t want to hurt anyone. I was simply determined not to allow my anger to simmer inside me any longer because the anger of years had done much to create my negative view of myself. How could I be worthwhile if I couldn’t express my deepest feelings? And what if those feelings were negative? I learned that I had to let out the anger, but do it kindly. And if others could not deal with that, I was learning a lesson about who really were my friends. Those who cared about me helped me learn how to express anger in the very best ways.What had kept me from expressing anger before? I lacked self-confidence. What if I were wrong? Jeff convinced me to trust my sense of what was right for me. How did he do it? As I hope I’ve made clear, I paid attention to what I was noticing. Experience provided self-correcting feedback.
From trust in myself grew the conviction that my appraisal of others’ interactions with me was also usually to be trusted. Eventually, I realized that my evaluations of others were usually right — not always, but usually. Observing the distinction between correct evaluations and the circumstances associated with them and evaluations that were questionable became extremely important. Accepting both my good judgment in most cases and also my fallibility led me to create systems to warn me when I might be wrong. I started watching much more closely when I was right and when I wasn’t. And from that watching I learned still more important lessons about myself.
As previously stated — but I restate it because I think this is the heart of what I learned — I had, with Jeff’s help, developed an open system of learning, based upon observation and self-evaluation, a system that could be used for an entire range of purposes that went far beyond assessment of appraising my own and others’ interactions with me. I had developed a system that could be used to separate likely truth from likely falsehood in a wide variety of circumstances. This, I think, is why Jeff’s insistence on observing what we observe is so important: it becomes the very foundation for an entire way of looking at the world.
Here’s another example of Jeff in action. For years, I’d been told I was a genius. (Of course, there were also those whose opinions of me were lower.) I certainly didn’t feel like an exalted species — if anything, the contrary. Eventually, bored with Jeff’s homework assignment to describe what it was like to be a genius, I came to realize that I didn’t care, and that the entire issue was boring. I was myself, whoever that was.
As a result, I began dropping habits based on “should”s that I’d accepted all my life — because how could I possibly have risen to the top of my profession if I hadn’t practiced these habits? For example, I realized that I didn’t have to read the newspaper daily in order to keep up-to-date in my field or even in the world in general. Rather, I realized that most of what went on from day to day was nothing more than an illustration of the saying, “Plus ca change, plus c’est la meme chose.”
I’ve been talking about the big things. The little ones probably made the big ones easier to accept. I realized that I was virtually incapable of holding a phone conversation without walking around. I came to recognize immediately when a task bored me and that, regardless of the dollar cost (at least in every case so far), it was less costly to hire someone else pronto to do the task than to keep trying and failing. Failing was unhealthy for me; I needed to develop a series of successes, even if a steep price had to be paid. Meanwhile, I also came to understand the kinds of tasks that bore me. Once I was aware of them, I could begin corrective action immediately.
I also recognized that I succeed more easily when I have with me someone I like. Jeff at first thought I simply needed to have another person present. That proved to be untrue. It had to be someone whose presence is enjoyable to me.
And I realized that I absolutely must have significant periods of time alone if I’m not to become depressed. I’ve learned to forgive myself for my failures and to keep going although some of the challenges I face go far beyond what most others ever confront. I’ve learned that exercise makes me feel good. I’ve learned how to lose weight (over 25 lbs. so far).
Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned is a game I made up for myself, a very serious game: how to pretend I don’t have ADD-like symptoms and to keep up the pretense, while conscious of doing so, long enough to accomplish some very difficult tasks. I know I’ll fail in some of them. On the whole, however, I think I’m doing pretty well.
Could I have done all this without Jeff’s coaching? Frankly, I doubt it. He made his share of mistakes with me, as I did with him, but I am so improved as a result of his coaching that I think I’ll owe him forever. And, by the way, I so much appreciate the extra time he spent with me without charging me. I felt as if he were hugging me.
I suppose it’s appropriate to list the things about Jeff that I didn’t enjoy. I find him a bit too certain that he’s right when I see no reason to arrive at the same conclusion. He talks way too fast, and he’s bossy. The more he acted bossy with me, the more likely I was to refuse to do what he asked. I don’t think he ever really understood that. Maybe my own response was childish. Who knows? Frankly, I think the negatives are so much outweighed by the positives that the negatives are just not worth much attention…at least not by anyone except Jeff!
I would recommend Jeff in a heartbeat (and have) to anyone who wants or needs to change behavior habits. One need not have the symptoms of ADD, I think, to benefit. One must, however, be willing to look honestly at one’s behavior, especially behavior one never before recognized. Doing this is very hard work. Precisely because the behavior was never previously recognized, one needs a guide, a coach, whatever you call it. I doubt that this kind of work can be done alone. And I doubt that anyone can do a better job of this than Jeff Copper.
Academic and Corporate Researcher
(name withheld at the request of corporate stakeholders)
- As usual, I’m over-thinking this and resisting the urge to wait until later to write so that my words can be “perfect” and then probably never do it. So I’m not going to wait, because it’s important for you to know now how much your coaching has helped and still is helping. I feel like I had a pivotal breakthrough today, and I just want to say thank you and I’m grateful I have you as my coach!! You are awesome!! Feel free to publish this anywhere you deem appropriate, because everyone who’s struggling with the chaos of ADD should know about you!! Thank you soooo much!
- I was unhappy at work. I came home drained every day. I was also unhappy with my relationship with a close family member. I decided to give coaching with Jeff Copper at DIG Coaching Practice a try. It has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. Before coaching, I saw myself as I believed I was. Now I see myself more as I really am, and continue to pay attention to what comes easily to me. As a result, I am now working independently as a companion/caregiver, a change that was beyond my wildest dreams before coaching. My difficult relationship continues to come with challenges, but by paying attention to how each of us really is, I have been able to change my interaction, and our relationship has happily improved. I highly recommend Jeff Copper to guide you through any situation. In addition to Jeff’s training, he has a gift of paying attention to what really is, and of being able to see the big picture. Coaching with Jeff has changed my life. You will be amazed at what it can do for you.
- In high school and college, I got good grades and was very successful. In medical school, I found myself struggling. That is when I turned to coaching for help getting back on track. In a few short months, Jeff and I identified how I naturally learned, realizing my environment in medical school was not conducive for my style. We changed my environment and I got back on track. The coaching process enabled me to pay attention to what works for me in such a way that allowed me to better manage myself now and in the future. I recommend Jeff to all those who have been successful but find themselves still struggling, are stuck, or just seem to have lost their way.
- After several years of unsuccessful psychotherapy in which I was trying to figure out what was “wrong” with me and how I could be “fixed,” I was finally diagnosed with ADD. When I understood I had a physiological condition instead of a character defect, I was ready for coaching. It’s great to talk to someone who doesn’t try to “fix” me – and even says I’m not broken! By creating an accepting atmosphere, you’ve allowed me to become objective about who I am and how I function. You help me identify what works in my life and why it works. My self-esteem has increased as I’ve learned I don’t have to swim upstream, but can turn my innate talents, tendencies, interests, and preferences to my advantage. Rather than try to do things the way other people do them, I can embrace my uniqueness and find my own solutions. The coaching process has been incredibly liberating.
Graphic Design, Seattle WA
- Jeff, thank you for speaking at the ACO conference last weekend. I’ve had the honor of reviewing your evaluations, and people were very inspired by your presentation. Twenty-five evaluations were submitted. “Very interesting and engaging” sums up what people were saying. “Fantastic!” “This man is going to revolutionize perspectives.” “Inspiring!” “Fun!” You might want to know that a handful (only 6 of the 25) of the evaluations gave middling marks for organization and pace of presentation. No one wrote specific comments, however. Obviously, you are a well-loved presenter and we look forward to having you back again at a future ACO conference. You truly helped us raise the bar for all of us. We are most grateful. With appreciation and respect.
Viveca Monahan PCC
2010 ADHD Coaches Organization Conference Chair
- At the age of 53, I was diagnosed with attention deficit disorder (ADHD). At first, I thought it was a good thing….to finally know how my way of thinking was different from others I encountered in life. But instead of clarification, I felt frustration and confusion. It was unclear to me how to move forward in my life. That’s when I discovered the “So Who Programmed U?” model created by Jeff Copper of DIG Coaching. This program gave me direction, helping me to understand how I’m wired differently when compared to “methodical thinkers.” Understanding who I really am, as well as being understood by others, was what would move me forward. The “So Who Programmed U?” model gave me direction, a way of paying attention to who I am and how I work. Understanding myself is what moves me forward, giving me success with the challenges in my life. I highly recommend the “So, Who Programmed U?” program. Coach Jeff was entertaining and caring, as well as a dynamic ADHD coach. He knew, without a doubt, how I was thinking and how that thinking was holding me back. As Jeff so succinctly puts it, I was paying attention to the wrong things! His model taught me how to pay attention to what I was paying attention to.
- I have always been an upbeat and positive person. Wanting to do the best both personally and professionally, I would become frustrated in organizing my thoughts and activities. I felt pressure to conform my words and actions to be like everyone else, knowing it didn’t work for me. I knew I had good ideas, but my actions were paralyzed by fear that no one else would understand them. It was easy to blame my ADD, just wanting it to be “fixed,” but deep down I knew there was more to it. This is where I have found the true value in coaching. Working with Jeff Copper has helped me realize the best of me through a positive and supportive coaching environment. I have gained confidence in my abilities knowing how I best “operate.” I am less stressed, realizing my ideas not only have merit, but I am more confident in sharing them with others. The coaching relationship Jeff fosters has taken away the fear of being judged. I know I can relax, say what I am thinking, regardless how random, and our discussion will be open and non-judgmental. It has been Jeff’s encouragement and cheering on as I turned each corner that has made the difference. Jeff is firm in his coaching but with a style that has allowed me to really believe in my abilities and myself. Coaching has given me the momentum I needed to expand my business, further my education, and build the relationships with family and friends I’ve always wanted. Thanks, Jeff!
- I came to DIG Coaching in order to learn how some ADD-related issues affected my professional activities and my success in the corporate workplace. Through coaching, I learned how to identify my personal behaviors, patterns, or traits that were attributable to ADD. Coaching was a real learning experience for me. Coaching brought about some introspection for me, but the real value was when you synthesized and mirrored back my responses. I feel that I now have a better understanding of myself as related to the typical corporate workplace, and even a better understanding of how to undertake tasks around the house. I feel as if I am armed with the knowledge, and now I need to practice or execute the methods/techniques that I know will work… all thanks to your coaching.
- Prior to coaching, my hyper-focused mind would frequently go in circles when trying to solve difficult technical problems. Frustrated and worn-out, I would move on to something else. Occasionally, however, I would grab another brain and start bouncing things off it. This almost always allowed me to think through the problem in a productive, non-circular manner. While this was inevitably effective, I would blame myself for having to bother someone else and not being able to think through the problem sequentially and systematically without needing others. After working with Jeff, I realized that being able to discuss the problem with others is a skill and not a liability. I learned that I clearly work best when others are around. Since then, I never hesitated to find someone to bounce things off of and steered my work environment towards working in a group setting, rather alone. I now go about getting things done by creating an environment that complements my style and doesn’t force me to work in an unnatural manner. Now, I know I can excel in an environment where others reflect back my ideas and offer thoughts that propel me forward.
Chief Technology Officer Chicago IL
- I turned to Jeff at a time in my professional calling (others call it a career) when I found myself procrastinating on the administrative and sometimes confrontational aspects of my ministry. In working with Jeff, I found our coaching calls to be the highlight of my week, loaded with helpful, practical, and countless ‘ah ha’ moments. Through coaching, Jeff helped me become more comfortable in my own skin and MUCH more in touch with my own personal STYLE! As a result my confidence level has soared. I no longer have this sense of crisis, knocking myself out doing things based on how others believe I should do them; rather, I am now better able to communicate my style to others. To my surprise, others are okay with it. In fact, some have responded on my behalf, stating, ‘Pastor Ed doesn’t do it that way!’ Ultimately, through coaching, Jeff helped me pay attention to what I needed to pay attention to. After all, as he puts it, if you’re paying attention to the wrong thing, you’re going to get the wrong solution.
Dr. Ed Kuffel
Pastor, First Baptist Church
Dade City FL
- The coaching you provided, and the things I learned about the way my mind functions and about myself, as a result of our working together, continually and conspicuously appears in day-to-day occurrences, and at all levels … It is during these moments, that I find myself acting/thinking/functioning differently than I would have before, and dually aware that I redirected, or did something differently, to find the answer in a way that I wouldn’t have done previously. Sometimes it feels like finding a $20 bill in your jacket pocket … And sometimes on bigger things, I’ll sit back and take a moment to be grateful, and congratulating myself for having done something in a new and better way. Sometimes I find myself solving or redirecting an issue instantly, or in days or weeks, something that I know would have otherwise taken me weeks or months. By being aware of and paying attention to what I did not before, I experience better control, and more effectiveness in my own day-to-day existence. And when I find that I am ‘stopped,’ or blocked, I now have other directions I can turn, or specific things that I can do, enabling me to move forward again. As a newly discovered ADD’er, I think one of the most valuable things/tools/benefits that I’ve gotten out of your coaching is that by learning to pay attention, and by learning about the right things to pay attention to, that I can more easily and more often redirect my focus and my hyperfocus. I highly recommend you as a coach. Your training and input, your expertise and experience, and working with you have been an invaluable asset to me and my life.
Tampa Bay FL
- I recently asked Jeff to provide keynote remarks at a seminar I held. The seminar was on the subject of innovation and entrepreneurship in uncertain times. The audience included senior executives from all over Florida, and Jeff’s remarks were spot on. He was funny, creative, and inspiring all at once. Thanks … I look forward to utilizing Jeff again in the near future.
- Figuratively speaking, a mirror was placed in front of me, allowing me the ability to analyze my own actions and thoughts. I was inspired to dig deeper and dream higher without limitations.
Florida Junior Team
- As a new executive director, I turned to Jeff Copper for some business advice. What I got was an executive coach who empowered and motivated me. Jeff challenged me. He asked me tough questions I ordinarily would not have considered that forced me to think outside of my comfort zone. Jeff accelerated my learning curve not by giving me the answers but by enabling me to discover them on my own. To date, my ventures success far exceeds my expectations.
Clara Reynolds LCSW
Success 4 Kids and Families, Inc.
- I’ve always been good at successfully accomplishing goals for others (in my job, as a volunteer, etc.); however, I’ve always struggled to achieve personal goals and to make changes that become long-term habits. Coaching with Jeff has changed all that. Working with him has helped me to define realistic goals and develop tactical methods for accomplishing them. For the first time in my life, I really believe I can reach my goals and sustain the changes I’m making. I highly recommend Jeff to anyone who wants an exceptional coaching experience.
Communications Consultant and Artist
- As an entrepreneur, I am in the process of re-defining my business and taking it in a new direction. This re-evaluation has been no easy task as I have struggled with self-doubt, confusion, and lack of motivation, which has paralyzed me and caused me to “spin my wheels.” Within a few weeks of working with Jeff, he has helped (and continues to help) me get to the root of what I’m good at, what excites me, and what gets in my way. As we continue to chip away at the layers, I’m discovering a new-found clarity, sense of purpose, and confidence about my talents and ability. I am now boldly moving in a new direction with my business that excites and inspires me. Jeff is all about helping me to understand how I’m programmed; now, I can clearly see what has gotten in my way in the past and devise strategies for doing things differently. I feel like I have re-defined my business model in a way that serves me on many different levels and I’m excited about my professional future! Jeff has the magic touch, and I highly recommend him to those who want to begin understanding themselves in way that empowers and inspires them to walk in the world in a new way.
- My husband has ADHD and so do both of my teenage boys. The impact of dealing with an entire family with ADHD (when you don’t have it), plus working part time, going to school part time, starting a new dog training business, and volunteering in the community was very stressful and overwhelming! Working with Jeff has opened my eyes to looking at things in ways I had never thought of before. Through the coaching process, I have gained a better understanding of who I am and what my strengths are, and I have increased my knowledge of ADHD, which has helped me deal with my husband and sons in a way that has been empowering for all of us. Now, I am able to handle everyday stressful situations in a healthier way. I feel less stressed, I’m much happier, and my relationships are far more harmonious.
Wife, Mother, Secretary, Dog Trainer
- As a single mother of a young child with ADHD, working with Jeff Copper has been instrumental in helping me determine the best steps to take to help my son succeed. Together, Jeff and I have worked on strategies to help my son focus better in school and ways to help me establish structures in our home environment that will support his learning and reinforce his strengths. In addition, Jeff has taught me how to weed through all of the ADHD information available “out there,” so that I can find what I need to know to help my son. Working with Jeff has been a great experience; he is extremely knowledgeable and has asked some terrific questions to help me uncover what’s best for both my son and me. Thanks, Jeff!