Self-Regulation and Money: A Cloak of ADHD Invisibility

Working with ADHD clients every day, the subject of money frequently comes up. There’s an oversimplification of self-regulation and money. It’s strange to me how absolute the advice is in terms of what you should do with your money. The one thing I’ve learned with ADHD is that there is nothing absolute. When you’ve seen one person with ADHD, you’ve seen one person with ADHD. Continue reading “Self-Regulation and Money: A Cloak of ADHD Invisibility”

ADHD: Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks

In Super Bowl XXXVII, the Tampa Bay Buccaneers’ defensive lineup took the field for the first time. Each player introduced himself on network TV by stating his name and the college that drafted him.

When Simeon Rice’s turn came, he stated simply, “Simeon Rice, the School of Hard Knocks”! Get it? Football? Hard knocks? Well, I got the pun and a whole lot more! Here’s what I got… Continue reading “ADHD: Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks”

The 50 Percent Rule

Did you know that 50 percent of all doctors graduated in the bottom of their class? Early in my sales career, I loved sharing this very interesting fact; it proved especially useful when I was selling against HMOs in the days when indemnity plans meant you could choose any provider. That’s when I realized most anything that can be measured by definition is at or below average. This simple concept has fascinated me for years. Continue reading “The 50 Percent Rule”

Articulating Complex Concepts – Aha!

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. There are times when a picture or a symbol can communicate things that are quite complex in a way that brings instant clarity.

When you run across a graphic that really communicates and explains a concept, it’s transformative. Recently I stumbled onto a graphic that was so powerful I had to recreate the concept for my own so I could share it with you.

My hope is that this graphic will be a tool for you to use when relating to others, so you may gain some self-awareness on your own opinions and views.

When it comes to human interaction, it’s helpful to understand how views, perspectives, and assumptions determine what is obvious. You don’t always have to agree with the views and perspectives of others, but their experience still needs to be respected.

If the graphic speaks to you, please comment on my blog. I’d be interested in your thoughts and would love for you to share your thoughts with others, as well.

The COVID Pandemic: You Have Academic Rights

Matt Cohen and Associates ( is a law practice with an emphasis on special education, disability rights, and human services law. I’ve learned a lot from Matt over the years. One thing about having ADHD is that it’s challenging enough. Yet, it’s even more difficult sometimes to advocate for yourself to get the benefits of well-intended legislation or regulations.
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ADHD: Digital Descriptions

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Yet, all too often, people come to coaching using just a single word, that is, a label, to represent HOW they see something, such as, “I am a writer,” or, “He is a leader,” when in reality the label lacks specificity and represents a vague picture of HOW things really are. As a coach, I prefer using digital descriptions instead of labels because I believe they paint a clearer picture of reality.
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ADHD: Escaping Thinking

I’m very fortunate, because I have a great job — part of what I do is listen to people and understand different perspectives, ways of thinking, points of view, and processes. Over the years, I’ve been fortunate to interview subject matter experts, take the best of what they’ve done, and put it together.

One thing I’ve begun to do is look at emotions as a reflective response, just like when the doctor hits your knee with a hammer. Continue reading “ADHD: Escaping Thinking”

ADHD and Thinking: UGH!

Thinking is effortful. It can be incredibly gratifying or intensely painful. Take the euphoria of an aha moment when you’ve solved a problem as opposed to struggling to regulate your attention and focus on a difficult or boring task. What’s more, the pressure to think on a deadline, in the face of writer’s block for example, brings on anxiety, which is the human experience, but it’s more extreme for those with ADHD. Continue reading “ADHD and Thinking: UGH!”