By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – November 25, 2024
I stumbled into ADHD coaching as a profession 15 years ago. Daily, most people go to work, but I go to fun! Two things I like most about the job is the creativity and helping people. It is even more rewarding to help those who struggle with limiting beliefs or the reflexive urge to focus on emotions. (Often, judgment is what keeps a person down.)
Mind you, such people can be challenging. Reflexively, they can be defensive or insistent that their feelings represent objective facts. The trick is how to create a safe place for them to let their guard down, look at things in a new or different light, and focus on facts, not feelings. The honor in all this is that, when it happens, it is evidence of trust!
Recently, a client from years past made a comment on one of my social media channels. Here’s what they posted (minus a few identifiers to keep this anonymous):
“Hi Jeff, I did a few coaching sessions with you a couple of years ago, and you forced me to admit (while crying) that the stuff I call easy is actually really hard for me (bcz it’s boring, mundane or complicated and ambiguous). It was so powerful and lifechanging seeing reality and accepting it, so then you can work with it, not against it is so important. I no longer feel guilty or ashamed for trying to make everything in my life as easy as possible to remove friction, even if some of those strategies seem very silly to others. Your content and way of explaining ADHD is very helpful, thank you for that. Cheers from Europe.”
To this individual and others I’ve coached who have allowed me to hold up the mirror for them to take a hard look at things, I want them all to know how flattered and honored I am and what a privilege it is to be the person to hold the space to help you move forward. Thank you for allowing me to do what I do in service to you.
If you’d care to leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you. Thanks again!