One important fact I’ve learned over the years from coaching folks with ADHD is this:
ADHD is a self-regulation issue with a working memory challenge.
Now, let’s look more closely at the word “memory.”
Many folks with ADHD find clutter distracting. They prefer clean and tidy work spaces to help them relax and think. Interestingly, these same folks wrestle with memory challenges and tend to hold onto things because of the memories they represent; thus creating clutter.
One of my clients was a gentleman who was moving into a smaller place and but couldn’t seem to get rid of anything. During one coaching session, we talked about what items were the hardest to eliminate. He used as an example a memento that reminded him of his sixth grade teacher, someone he looks up to. He feared that to get rid of it would be to lose the memory.
What was his Aha!? To him, things are reminders of good times, things to do, people who have left, and dreams still to live. It was hard to get rid of items because so much of his stuff was really symbolic. This was a huge discovery! His ADHD and sentimentality were a legitimate reason for why he had difficulty letting go. We came up with an idea of a museum in which to keep the history of his life!
This museum concept made it very simple for him to sort through all the items in his house, quickly choosing what to keep and what to throw away. He dedicated a room in his new house to the museum and lovingly displayed his memorabilia.
Once we unearthed his Aha!, other decluttering systems were now able to work.
Here’s another Aha! example of: “If the obvious solution isn’t working, chances are you’re paying attention to the wrong thing!”