Why Decluttering Systems Don’t Always Work

One important fact I’ve learned over the years from coaching folks with ADHD is this:

ADHD is a self-regulation issue with a working memory challenge.

Now, let’s look more closely at the word “memory.”

Many folks with ADHD find clutter distracting. They prefer clean and tidy work spaces to help them relax and think. Interestingly, these same folks wrestle with memory challenges and tend to hold onto things because of the memories they represent; thus creating clutter.
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Eureka! A Time Management Strategy

One of my clients, a mental health professional, wanted coaching on time management, specifically on how to stop being late. Using the inquisitive coaching process, I began to ask questions, and as things unfolded, it was clear this person was about 10 minutes late 95% of the time.

Given her ADHD, time management challenges are almost always assured. She wanted a “plug-and-play” strategy, because she assumed that there was a structure already out there that I could impart to her for quick results. Continue reading “Eureka! A Time Management Strategy”

Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks

In Super Bowl XXXVII, the Tampa Bay Buccaneers’ defensive lineup took the field for the first time. Each player introduced himself on network TV by stating his name and the college that drafted him. When Simeon Rice’s turn came, he stated simply, “Simeon Rice, the School of Hard Knocks“! Get it? Football? Hard knocks? Well, I got the pun and a whole lot more! Here’s what I got…

College (or school of any kind) is mostly about transferring knowledge from one person to another. By reading a chemistry book or a football rule book, you can learn/gain knowledge about how something is supposed to work. But just because you have knowledge about “how” it works, doesn’t mean you can “make” it work. Continue reading “Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks”

Distractible vs. Curious

Those close to attention deficit disorder (ADD)—psychologists, psychiatrists, neurolo­gists, therap­ists, counselors, etc.—frequently reference four distinguishing characteristics or traits that are used to differentiate between those who have ADD and those who do not. The four traits are “distractible” “impulsive,” “hyper­active,” and “lazy.”

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