I’ve got dyslexia. What does that mean? In simple terms, when I look at a “b,” my mind retrieves a “d”. When I look at a word like “through,” my mind retrieves “threw.” Do you have any idea how hard it is to read, much less to comprehend when you are retrieving the wrong words and trying to make sense out of a sentence? It’s frustrating!
Know what else is frustrating? Having the world preach to you about how much fun reading is and how I should really like it. No! I don’t like it! It’s agonizing work. I hate it.
“Give him something interesting to read and he’ll enjoy it,” they say. No, I won’t. Don’t you get it? It’s hard work.
Just once it would be nice for someone to be aware of my challenges and meet me where I am. Something like, “Jeff, I understand how difficult this is for you. If I had dyslexia, I would hate reading, too.”
My mother taught me to acknowledge what is hard. If you discount it as easy, you are not giving it the respect it is due. You’re minimizing its impact and can’t seriously address it. All too often I coach people on procrastination. Typically, I ask them what is hard about a task. Their response is almost always “Nothing. It’s easy.”
I respond, “Really? Then why is it on your procrastination list?”
Again, my point and the purpose of this blog is to help you set up your mind to identify what is hard and to problem-solve around it. You can’t address difficult things via a lens of easy. It can lead to blame and shame, and I’ve never seen blame or shame solve a problem.
If you have ADHD, I want you to know I “get” it. ADHD sucks and it’s hard.