Can help sometimes actually foster learned helplessness? There are times when one partner helping the other can diminish the partner being helped. Partners in an ADHD relationship especially need to be aware that helping may hurt the relationship. Continue reading “ADHD and Relationships: When Helping Hurts”
Author: Jan Owens
ADHD: Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks
By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – November 8, 2021
In Super Bowl XXXVII, the Tampa Bay Buccaneers’ defensive lineup took the field for the first time. Each player introduced himself on network TV by stating his name and the college that drafted him. When Simeon Rice’s turn came, he stated simply, “Simeon Rice, the School of Hard Knocks.” Get it? Football? Hard knocks? Well, I got the pun and a whole lot more! Here’s what I got. Continue reading “ADHD: Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks”
ADHD Tip: Failing Forward at the Dinner Table
“What did you fail at today?” Seems like a stupid question, but really, it has significant value in helping to humanize failure, to understand trials and errors, and to move forward toward success. So, here’s a unique idea! When your family is seated around the dinner table, ask each one that question. With their answers, you’re actually teaching your kids and yourself how to humanize each other, to be real and to let everyone see that no one is perfect. It also teaches a bit of humility to hear that others have failures, as well. Continue reading “ADHD Tip: Failing Forward at the Dinner Table”
The 50 Percent Rule
By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – October 11, 2021
Did you know that 50 percent of all doctors graduated in the bottom of their class? Early in my sales career, I loved sharing this very interesting fact; it proved especially useful when I was selling against HMOs in the days when indemnity plans meant you could choose any provider. That’s when I realized most anything that can be measured by definition is at or below average. This simple concept has fascinated me for years. Continue reading “The 50 Percent Rule”
Articulating Complex Concepts – Aha!
By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – October 11, 2021
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. There are times when a picture or a symbol can communicate things that are quite complex in a way that brings instant clarity. When you run across a graphic that really communicates and explains a concept, it’s transformative. Recently I stumbled onto a graphic that was so powerful I had to recreate the concept for my own so I could share it with you. Continue reading “Articulating Complex Concepts – Aha!”
ADHD: Is It Voice Activated?
Can we say that those with ADHD are “voice-activated”? It’s funny that we would apply that phrase to a human when it’s a term usually reserved for electronic devices, but in the case of ADHD, it may be true. For those with ADHD, talking a lot seems to be natural for them. Although they may not be aware of it, talking out loud is actually a good tactic because it eases the load on the working memory system. It’s almost like they need to walk their way through the whole thing so they can get to where they are going. Continue reading “ADHD: Is It Voice Activated?”
The COVID Pandemic: You Have Academic Rights
By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – August 23, 2021
Matt Cohen and Associates (https://mattcohenandassociates.com) is a law practice with an emphasis on special education, disability rights, and human services law. I’ve learned a lot from Matt over the years. One thing about having ADHD is that it’s challenging enough. Yet, it’s even more difficult sometimes to advocate for yourself to get the benefits of well-intended legislation or regulations.
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ADHD: Digital Descriptions
By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – August 16, 2021
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Yet, all too often, people come to coaching using just a single word, that is, a label, to represent HOW they see something, such as, “I am a writer,” or, “He is a leader,” when in reality the label lacks specificity and represents a vague picture of HOW things really are. As a coach, I prefer using digital descriptions instead of labels because I believe they paint a clearer picture of reality.
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ADHD High Tech: The Advantages of Paper
What’s more tempting to you… reading a book online or reading a book you can hold in your hands? Often, people with ADHD gravitate to those shiny and new gadgets in technology, thinking those devices can help, but sometimes it’s old-fashioned paper that is a lot more productive. Why do I say that? Because it can benefit self-regulation. Continue reading “ADHD High Tech: The Advantages of Paper”
ADHD: Escaping Thinking
By Jeff Copper, MBA, PCC, PCAC, CPCC, ACG – July 26, 2021
I’m very fortunate, because I have a great job — part of what I do is listen to people and understand different perspectives, ways of thinking, points of view, and processes. Over the years, I’ve been fortunate to interview subject matter experts, take the best of what they’ve done, and put it together. One thing I’ve begun to do is look at emotions as a reflective response, just like when the doctor hits your knee with a hammer. Continue reading “ADHD: Escaping Thinking”