It’s that time of the year where one year ends and a new one begins. It’s tradition to stop and reflect on the prior year and set some goals for the new year. In my coaching practice, I’ve come to realize setting goals is really not that difficult.
I’ve got dyslexia. What does that mean? In simple terms, when I look at a “b,” my mind retrieves a “d”. When I look at a word like “through,” my mind retrieves “threw.” Do you have any idea how hard it is to read, much less to comprehend when you are retrieving the wrong words and trying to make sense out of a sentence? It’s frustrating!
Years ago, I interviewed a gentleman who was explaining to me the theories behind Japanese psychology.
One of the things he said was that the Japanese practice gratitude. He explained that problems abound. The thing about a problem is it must be dealt with right then. For example, if you have a flat tire, that’s a problem, but you have to deal with it in that moment. In contrast, if there’s something you do that is successful or goes right, you don’t have to celebrate it in that moment.
As humans, we are very much appearance-based. We latch onto what we see, and often, this reliance on what we can see and what we can prove becomes an obstacle and a source of anxiety.
One of my favorite quotes recently is, “The sun doesn’t rotate around the earth, but without the right technology it looks like it does.” I think this is a great analogy and explains so much about the nature of the tricks, solutions, and strategies those with ADHD find on the Internet. At the end of the day, many of those things don’t work because they don’t address the core issue. They deal with appearance.
Continue reading “What if the Real Project Isn’t Appearance-Based?”
Have you ever called customer service about your computer and they asked if it was plugged in? The question seems silly, but do you know why the question is asked? It’s because through experience, working through long complicated solutions, they had found out the problem was something as simple as plugging in or turning on your device.
If you’re reading this blog post, chances are you were drawn to it by the word “disorganization.” Many of those with ADHD look at the clutter and their seemingly inefficient systems and proclaim themselves disorganized. But more often than not, this is an appearance-based judgment.
Yes, you could say I’m allergic to writing. I hate it. It’s always been hard, especially for a dyslexic like me. That’s why I focus so much on communicating auditory content via Attention Talk Radio and visual content via Attention Talk Video.
As allergic as I am to writing, yet I am able to write from time to time with the right prescription. In order to write, I need mental clarity. Writing is hard but even harder when starting with a white sheet of paper. Continue reading “Gesundheit! Do Allergies Affect ADHD Treatment?”
Here is a question I want to help you address. Are you struggling to manage your ADHD? If so, why?
Albert Einstein once said, “Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.” BUT NOT SIMPLER! ADHD isn’t simple. ADHD is complex. Dictionary.com defines “complex” as a system of interrelated, emotion-charged ideas, feelings, memories, and impulses that are usually repressed and give rise to abnormal or pathological behavior. “Problem-solving” is defined as the process of finding solutions to difficult or complex issues. Continue reading “Einstein “gets” ADHD. Do you?”
Yea! Attention Talk Video was named for the second year in a row the third best ADHD YouTube channel on the planet! Can you believe it? We got on the podium and might be getting a bronze medal, but the truth is we WON! We won GOLD. How can that be? Let me explain. It is all about context, which is an attention lesson for us all.
First place was Jessica McCabe’s How to ADD. Jessica is very creative and informative. Her channel does a great job. At the 2018 Conference on ADHD, Jessica and I put on a pre-conference marketing workshop. Our interaction was amazing and I really admire her. Continue reading “It’s like we won! Celebrate with us!”
There is nothing more powerful than a change in mindset!
There are different views on how to define mindsets. As an attention coach, I define mindset as how your mind is set up to think. Your mindset predetermines how you interpret and respond to everything. It defines what is obvious to you.
When problem-solving, most are looking for methodical solutions… paint-by-the-numbers recipes. When they find the recipes don’t work, they often look for an insight or an aha that reveals a methodical solution. This mindset makes sense as it can be exceptionally efficient. Often in the self-help world, people search endlessly for these quick-fix approaches. Few understand the nature and the power of a change in mindset. Continue reading “New Mindset, New Solutions”