Organizing your miscellaneous thoughts and ideas? UGH! The topic of getting organized comes up frequently in coaching, and I can relate to that personally. For instance, there’s a miscellaneous drawer in my kitchen. It’s the depository for things that don’t have a home. The top drawer of my bedroom chest serves the same purpose. Ditto my workbench in the garage. Continue reading “Embrace Miscellaneous Organization for Your Ideas”
What is self-awareness? Is it just being aware of your own internal emotions and feelings? Is it being able to see yourself in the third person? Or is it being able to see life and situations at a higher level, not just awareness of yourself, but awareness of others? Many people with ADHD struggle with self-awareness.
They feel threatened by it because they are sometimes lost in their head. They are also unaware of the plights of others. They’re often consumed with their own challenges and sometimes don’t realize the challenges of others. Sometimes we need just to step out of ourselves to understand it. Continue reading “A Lesson in Self-Awareness”
In my talks, podcasts, and videos, I relate information and helpful advice on various topics concerning ADHD and attention. From time to time, I receive comments and questions from folks disagreeing with what I say, because they “feel” what they are doing works for them. Continue reading “How Controversy Speaks to Self-Awareness”
The common theme to all of my newsletters is how paying attention to the wrong belief leads us to the wrong solution, and how being stuck is a symptom of paying attention to an inaccurate belief. As an attention coach, I find that, for most of my clients, the hardest part is not paying attention to the right things, but rather unlearning, letting go, or not paying attention to what the Ego believes it should pay attention to. Continue reading “When the Ego’s Belief Mistook the Wrong Thief, It Caused Such Grief!”
The band Three Dog Night sang it best in their song titled “One,” with the lyrics that go like this:
“One is the loneliest number that you will ever do.
Two can be as bad as one.
It’s the loneliest number since the number one.”
Yes, one is the loneliest number until you add a second.
Untangling a knotted fishing line because it was miscast might be frustrating, but it will pass. Being miscast as a fisherman? Now, that is a problem! As an ADHD and attention coach, I define “miscasting” as placing someone in a role and asking them to do something with an expectation of performance that is not supported by their underlying abilities. To better understand miscasting, let’s use horse racing as a metaphor. Continue reading “MISCASTING: Just a Bad Cast or the Wrong Hobby?”
Social media, YouTube, video games, advertising… they are all about getting your attention.
In the digital world, your clicks are tracked and analyzed so others can exploit what you are drawn to. In other words, they use advanced intelligence to connect with your more primitive urges. Continue reading “I Have a Question for You”
The marketing hype is in full swing. To give you a few examples, in Tampa, Christmas stuff was in stores before Halloween decorations and candy were out, some stores skipped the Halloween season altogether, and others have just enough Thanksgiving to check a box, but that’s it.
Continue reading “Expectations, Attention, and Insights for the Holiday Season”
In Super Bowl XXXVII, the Tampa Bay Buccaneers’ defensive lineup took the field for the first time. Each player introduced himself on network TV by stating his name and the college that drafted him. When Simeon Rice’s turn came, he stated simply, “Simeon Rice, the School of Hard Knocks.” Get it? Football? Hard knocks? Well, I got the pun and a whole lot more! Here’s what I got. Continue reading “ADHD: Failing Forward at the School of Hard Knocks”
Did you know that 50 percent of all doctors graduated in the bottom of their class? Early in my sales career, I loved sharing this very interesting fact; it proved especially useful when I was selling against HMOs in the days when indemnity plans meant you could choose any provider. That’s when I realized most anything that can be measured by definition is at or below average. This simple concept has fascinated me for years. Continue reading “The 50 Percent Rule”
